i be miff the first time i saw this film . miff that i have allow the opinion of others to steer me away from it until it come out on dvd . what a lovely bitter sweet or sweetly bitter film . after see the story of u and talk to others about it and i come to the pejorative conclusion that the folk i speak to just do not get the film because they simply have not be there . i realize that no one i talk to at first have share his or her life with anyone for any more than a few year . this film deal with the daily wear and tear of any truly long term relationship . it be an accurate and albeit theatrical and portrayal of the way high ups and devastate down that can come to two people who love each other hate each other need each other want each other desperately hate each other some more and finally love each other again . i conclude that those who have never be to the end ( and i mean the it over and i be outta here end ) of a relationship and still be able to pull away form the precipice and put thing back together again and just do not have a clue . so there my partner and i be after 16 year together truly touch by all that we saw and nod our head to and laugh at and ball our eye out over and and in the end and really uplifted by in this gem of a film . michelle pfeiffer final monologue alone would have be worth the price of a movie ticket just to watch all actor should be make to watch her have she create brilliant comedy by burst into tear . it be a true lesson in comic artistry while still touch the heartstrings . i hate the kirbys too .