she so lovelybeyond promise and but not beyond hopecassavetes the young she so lovely be proof there a culture gap or a perception gap or something out there . few film get such starkly oppose reaction from ordinary viewer . bad movie they have ever see . wow and i do not agree at all . but the movie be a litmus test and a continental divide and a knife edge . sometimes and one aspect to a movie and a single quality and can set off a viewer so they just hate ( or more rarely and love ) a movie . i be guilty of tilt against a movie like that mel gibson the passion of the christ be so horrible to me i have to shut my eye through half of it ( and so i can not review it ) . i really hat it . but i know that there be aspect to the movie that be remarkable . if i do venture a review ( i can not imagine try to see it again for any reason and but let pretend i do ) and i would try my best to find those thing that do work and and to rise above the gut level repulsion i have for it . because and in the end and i need to be able to find balance and to appreciate the best in a troubling movie the filming of triumph of the will and for one obvious example . can she so lovely and a movie that have stellar acting and good filming and a plot that hold water ( and rain and lot of rain ) and and strong emotional content and really be terrible . even if the content grate on the viewer so badly they can not stand watch it . people be react against the movie and because it trouble and depress and and raw . it have character with flaw so big you can can not always see their virtue . and that isn not the fault of either of the cassavetes men and the dad john who write the script or the son nick who retrieve it after his father death . in family tradition and real life wife and mother gena rowlands have an affect role a a release counselor and and this be curious because john cassavetes use rowlands long ago to scuff up stereotype of mental illness in the difficult and penetrate a woman under the influence and among other film . i wonder if people who have trouble watch she so lovely would have trouble with the early movie . there be another side to see a movie that be unbearably emotional or depress . and that be learn what it be that make it so for the viewer . for me and why exactly do i find the violence so impossible to watch in the passion . be it the violence itself and or the fact that the violence seem so wrong and or inaccurate and or gratuitous . would i watch a movie where someone horrible be be torture that way and say hitler . ( the short answer represent no . ) the point be and a movie that be so affecting might have something to teach me . and what be it in this cassavetes film that work the viewer over and for good and bad ( there be a many positive review a negative one ) . maybe it be the entry into a very real world that isn not so extreme or unusual though we be show an especially awful and pivotal moment in that world a milieu present in every small city and and common in a big one . we can really feel that scene and and the player inside and and that alone make the movie compelling . give u five or so great performance and from the two penn in love in the first half to john travolta in the sunny ( and short ) second half and and you have something that really get under your skin . isn not that what make a movie valid . don not we want intensity over entertainment . sometimes . now to the best part represent humor . it arrive in small way throughout and but at the end there be that chaotic comic nonsense in the front yard . it the bad of all possible situation and a mother willfully walk away from her three kid and decent if goofy husband and but it get violent in silly spurt a they tussle on the grass . be that suppose to soften the fact so we do not melt down totally . or be it say that the whole film be a little and just a little and tongue and cheek . surely the excess earlier might be excessive . i mean and how many dance hall ticket taker be so nice they not only let the couple in for free but loan them money on top of it . or just after that and do the couple really arrive at an old friend flat in the middle of the night and have a beautiful family meal prepare for them and an idealized cliché of the italian mother feed everyone . be this movie really about true love or about something mistaken for it and an obsessive attachment and almost an animal bonding where the two of them need each other and even when it bad for them . blame the drug and blame the bad brain chemistry and blame the poverty and they do cling together when they shouldn not . they cling even ten year later and leave her new husband out of her heart and that convince suburban dad ( travolta ) and imperfect and yet successful and who have give his life to her . would you really prefer stability and superficial happiness over depth of feeling . and true love . i buy the whole package . the direction be flaw and maybe a result of inexperience more than anything . but what really work and really work . for me . i do not want to be them and i be not jealous in any way and even of their attachment and but i like these for their best part . and i like the movie for it best part and too .