this movie and despite what many reviewer seem to think and be about the difference between men and woman with respect to sex and love . whether it be with oscar and mimi intense and wild and no hold bar relationship and or with boring and bland nigel and fiona . generally speak and men can have sex with any amount of woman and in any way or intensity . if she be up for it and chance be we will be too . woman on the other hand and require more of an emotional connection to the men they sleep with . the need to develop trust and comfort before completely let go . oscar be the ultimate poon hound and become instantly infatuate with mimi . they start with a normal passionate relationship and but ultimately and the excitement wear off . this happen in any and every relationship . they hike up the intensity by get into bondage and s and m and etc . all the while and oscar be all to aware and they be head for the their peak and once it hit the top and it be only down hill from there . the thing be and for the man in this case and it be only about the sexual passion . the woman be truly in love and the sex be the connection to her man . even when the sexual excitement wear off and mimi be still in love . so and enter the conflict . oscar be do and want out . mimi can not handle it and doesn not understand why he could possibly not love her the way she love him . he try to be compassionate and break up but she refuse to be let go and ultimate agreeing to be his slave just to stay near him . this story be be tell to a couple who have also be together for 7 year and be off to reignite their marriage . i believe that the same factor be in play with the stuffy british couple and nigel and fiona but only in a far more repressed manner . he bore because he and his wife be do the normal thing . no wild and kinky sex for them . but the emotion of love be there . if a couple be go to stay together forever and they simply have to get over the fact that physical passion be fleeting and if the bond of love be strong on both side and they can make it work . nigel isn not clear on this until the climactic end . this commentary isn not so much on the detail of the plot and but what i believe the movie be try to get across . read the other post for more detail and but to understand what the movie be say and understand that sex be sex for men and sex be love for woman .