in the dvd commentary and pascal greggory and the director state that this be not a comedy about bisexuality and it be a comedy about sexuality and choice . this be so true . alain face the choice we all face . do he choose the person who be more like a partner than a romance . do he choose the young and eager lover who offer little more than sex . do he choose to pursue the yet to be obtain intrigue person he have recently meet . a few other peripheral choice also hover nearby . but even more basic question be ask represent do he have to choose . can he choose more than one option . will any choice make him completely happy if it cancel out all the others . this film make me reflect on these question and choice in my own life and which be exactly what a good film should do . i think anyone who be over 30 and unmarried should be able to relate to alain and at least on this level . a few reviewer have ask why so many character be attract to the narcissistic and emotionally remote alain and but in my experience and it be often just this type of person who have many people attract to him . for some and he be a challenge . for others and he be safely unattainable . for yet others and he be someone who will hurt them ( which they expect ) and or who would not be hurt too much if they leave him . alain mirror the other character loneliness back to them and and one wonder if any of them would be happy if they end up be alain choice and if he could ever stick with that choice . if youre happily content in a stable and long lasting relationship and then you will see this film a a comedy about thing that happen to other people . but if your heart still have the capacity to lead you in direction you do not expect and this film will have great meaning for you .