i give this film a 10 out of a possible 10 star . i wish i could write a powerfully and beautifully a this . few film move to me to tear and only 2 or 3 have do so in my sixty some year of living . this one do . this film encompass so much represent the difference that drive u apart and the misunderstanding that cause u emotional pain and try our best and sometimes not meet the expectation of others and and the love and compassionate that can bring u together it all there in this powerfully move film . the story begin in ireland and with a young wife and mother and who learn that her young brother and declan and ( also an adult ) and be in a hospital and that he be gay and that he have aid . upon his release from the hospital and declan decides he would like to stay at their widowed grandmother house in the irish countryside and where he and his sister stay for some time when their mother go away to care for their father who be die of cancer and when they be both child . declan sister leave her child in the care of her husband and and elect to stay at the grandmother house with her brother . some gay friend of declan arrive to help with his care and and declan widow mother also come to stay there . the story then revolve around these people and the pain of expectation and misunderstanding that separate them .