i saw this movie a a 15 year old when it come out . i remember it be a saturday night and none of my friend be around . my parent do not have any plan either and ask if i would like to go to a movie with them . although spend a saturday night with one parent couldn not be more uncool for a teenage boy and i agree . the story and performance suck me in from the beginning and hold me there while the unbearable sadness of the final scene tore my heart out . of course teenage boys aren not suppose to be that sentimental so it take all my strength to hold back this tidal wave of grief that cut through me . a we walk out of the theatre and through the parking lot and get into the car i say nothing . after a few minute my mother say and mark and youre awfully quiet . i shoot back at her leave me alone and which she do . i do not want reality to intrude upon the profoundly deep feeling i be experience . that feel stay with me for month . only decades later do i realize that the movie touch on a very personal sadness in my life that a a teenage boy i couldn not begin to grapple with . mick mother inability to express love for her mirror a similar void in my relationship with my father . during a particularly depressed part of my adulthood and while i be grapple with the reality of have an unloving father and one day i find myself think about this movie . oh . that why the movie have such a devastate effect on me . it bring to the surface all of the sadness and isolation and loneliness i suppress a a child who wasn not love for who he be . that the definition of a true work of art . this movie have the ability to allow me to feel what i be unable to a a child and only year later would i be able to understand the reason for the overwhelming sadness i felt then .