think of me a you will . my opinion be base on the film and it message and not the mr. come and just to make thing clear . this film be suppose to show the traumaitzation of a man who be abuse by a member of the catholic church when he be a young boy . the problem with the whole story be and the story that be be tell be from men who claim to be abuse at the age from 12 16. they say that they be unaware of what be happen to them and that they ( the victim ) would wake up and there be a man from the church have their way with them . these story teller say that at the time they weren not sure what be happen and that they let it occur . right off the bat and i would say that those statement have no validity . in and around the age of thirteen and teenager know about sex in way or another . you learn it from school and society and or family . to say you do not seem to be the way to cope with allow your curiosity to happen . i remember i be in the fifth grade when we be give the crash course on sex and so at that age i be 10 or 11. thing that weren not teach ( obviously ) i learn from peer . so at that age i be aware of what sex be and would have some sort of idea of what may have be happen . what the story teller also fail to mention be that they weren not come forth about the abuse ( if that what they think it be then ) to anyone . not parent of friend and or any one else in the church . they allow it to happen and happen multiple time . i mean and once they be 16 and the abuse be continue and there be no excuse that they would still have no idea what be happen . they show a man refer to john doe who remember be drunk and naked and be in bed with a allege sex offender and nothing else . he go on how that experience disturb him and but then he recall experiment with this man . how . first he say he do not remember and but remembers everything else and be disturb and but then allow it to happen on another occasion . why . this be only one small example and there be many other point that be try to be make that get spin around base on the reaction and delay of the victim describe in the film . another example ( a large one at that ) be that even though one person in the film claim he be haunt by what happen everyday and that he be against the church ( due to a lawsuit he file about 18 year later ) and the church be still a big part of his life . he be marry in a catholic church and send his daughter to a catholic school and and we see her receive her first communion . and feel all this bitterness and frustration with the church and he go in and accepts communion with his daughter . once again and if this be all so traumatic and one claim to be abuse or rap and lie too and why go back to this church . why accept communion and something sacred to this church . it backwards . it thing like this that hurt the credibility of this film and it story teller . it rid the wake to a major controversy in america . it doesn not seem like a documentary and but like a movie of fiction . it try to strike emotion with circumstance that seem stag . the point and message of this film be lose with it irony . i feel sorry for the story teller not because of what they claim have happen and but because this film hurt what they have to say . to the film maker and this be a bad film . d to all of you user here on imdb and i stand by what i say . it simple psychology since we be now be tell a story decade down the road from what they claim happen . over the year stories stretch and wear and till the very foundation have change . i still find this movie to be dis miss able . and personally to colorscheme and my review of a bad film be straight forward to the point use reference from the film and therefore i be back up my opinion so you can see for yourself . it your review that have the wide array of emotion and not mine . i tell you to think of me a you will and but truth be tell and i will say it again and this movie be awful and have a message lose in translation .