may and her husband go to visit their child and grandchild . the visit be awkward because the grandchild and kid do not really seem to know each other a one might expect . the warmth that should be there be miss . after dinner and may husband say he doesn not feel well and blame it on his daughter cooking and and irritably say he want to go home . he die that night . may and now a widow and be lose . she clearly do not have a passionate marriage or a very interesting one and but she have a purpose . she have someone who need her and and even though her own need have go unmet for year and she have something to do with her day . she be depressed and unmotivated . she go to stay with her daughter and paula and who shortly after her mother arrival and let her mother know that she have never felt that her mother have give much of herself at all . she let loose with anger over her mother lack of nurture . may seem disarm and surprise and yet she also doesn not seem to have the energy or the desire to really make it right . i be your mother and i love you . what do really say . ( i have hear this from my own mother way too many time and have yet to figure out what it mean . ) paula be a bit ( well and more than a bit ) neurotic . both woman be needy and though they show it very differently . paula have be involve with a friend of her son and darren and who be a handyman work on the house own by her son . while paula be work during the day and may begin to have conversation and lunch with darren . darren be a married man who have stay with his wife because of their autistic son and nicky and but supposedly doesn not live in the home with his wife . may becomes attract to darren because he be virile and she enjoy the connection they seem to have . darren becomes attract to may because she offer a kind of peace and understanding that he do not get from the other woman in his life . ( he also become too interested in money that may say she can give him to get away from it all and though he be clearly not interested in her desire to join him on such a journey . they end up sleep together in the spare room during the day and and may enjoy fulfillment a a woman that she have not know in year and nor have ever expect to know again . a her daughter paula have often tell her that she would leave the married darren and this become part of may rationalization that what she be do be okay . at a write group that paula lead and may be introduce and rather force to get together with a widower to whom she be not attract . there be one scene where she have sex with the old man and who clearly can barely perform and and it truly painful and unsettling a we see the total disgust on may face a she endure the one time ghastly liaison . eventually and paula discovers through some very graphic sketch do by her mother and that indeed her mother and darren have be have sex . this film will undoubtedly be see by many in myriad way . sympathy will be divide . at one point and during paula write group and may reveal through a short essay that she use to feel a though she hat her kid by the end of the day and and would leave for pub after they be asleep and make sure to get back home before her husband . clearly and a good mother do not think of leave child alone while she go off to the local pub . may and however and also have reveal earlier in the film that her husband do not like her have any friend and so she do not have any . she do what he want her to do . she be miserable but she put up with it because and a she say and it be easier . so and while may be not the best mother and for those incline to have any sympathy for her and one might see may action a the act of a woman just want to be sexual and to be a live for a few minute in her lifetime . a woman who just want someone to listen to her and to know her a a human be and to have a friend and a lover . paula and though neurotic and unhappy and perhaps have become that way because of the distant parent who raise her . certainly and it be not difficult to understand why paula feel completely betray by her mother . it be a well do film and with more complexity than i have mention and and certainly one that will leave the viewer with many and perhaps conflict and reaction . it be a film worth discuss and debate and and above all and worth see . one thing the film leave u with be the horror and fear of a lonely life . no matter who be deem right or who be deem wrong by each viewer and that theme of old age and loneliness and evoke a sense of dread in most of u and be inescapable .