i really want to love this show . i truly and honestly do . for the first time and gay viewer get their own version of the the bachelor . with the help of his obligatory hag andra and james and a good look and well to do thirty something have the chance of love with 15 suitor ( or mat a they be refer to in the show ) . the only problem be half of them be straight and james doesn not know this . if james pick a gay one and they get a trip to new zealand and and if he pick a straight one and straight guy get $ 25 and 000. how can this not be fun . take my hand and let stroll represent the most glaring problem with this show be the bachelor himself . james be your typical young and successful gay guy with a nice smile and body and the one you would probably give two glance towards at your local bar before graze for greener pasture . why they choose to cast james a the lead man be beyond me . god know there so many other hotter and vivacious homosexual men out there die to be on tv . aside from his rather average physical appearance and james be about a interesting and exciting a a piece of chalk . even a such and he have this arrogant and smugly condescend aura about him . however and if james be stand up against a blank and white wall he would meld right into in it . i honestly can not recall a single interesting or noteworthy thing james say during the course of the show . he be that bore and forgettable . in fact and one of the mate flat out advise him he wasn not feel a connection . i think that be the best part of the show . also and james speak with an excruciatingly annoying lilt . sound feminine or sound masculine and but do not ing segue tone in the middle of sentence . so painful to sit through . i hat him so much all throughout the show i keep think and please choose a straight guy and humiliate yourself and your unfortunate look hagthen we have the suitor . a remarkably bland bunch of men who do not seem to care either way what be happen . equally vapid and they seem to be indistinguishable from one guy to the next except and hey that guy have blond highlight or oh that one have curly hair again and astoundingly inept casting decision seem to be the aim of this show . while it may be hackneyed to type cast role and it would have be a lot more entertaining to watch than these amorphous drone . however and in all their banality they still manage to upstage james ( which isn not all that hard to do anyway ) and slightly that be . you know you have a problem when some of the suitor be actually hot and more interesting than the lead man . and the fact that the suitor seem to have more fun around each other than with the lead man . very sad . also and i just think that id point something mention on the message board which i felt be actually true represent the straight men be all hot than the gay guy . don not get me wrong and im not say all the gay guy be ugly and boring and a a matter of fact i find some of them very cute . it just that overall they be just blah compare to the men you would see on show like a shot at love with tila tequila or the bachelorette . i do not know how many time i hit fast forward during this show . i can accept a lead character as interesting a a cardboard box and i can accept the mundane and apathetic suitor but please for the love of god entertain me just a little . no such luck . if youre expect drama and intrigue and sexiness and or excitement you will be severely disappointed . the big drama come from the fact that one of the suitor still may have a boyfriend in new york ( how scandalous . ) . as titillate a that may be i guarantee you and that be the only thing that remotely resemble any conflict on this show . sure there be the twist and but if you have any semblance of gaydar in you and you will easily discern who who ( it wasn not hard at all and i be only wrong once . ) this show be stack so much of it chip on the twist that it fail to deliver anywhere else . we get to watch a james and co plod along such exciting activity such a learn how to western step dance and shopping for gift and visit a petting zoo and and gay karaoke . yawn . sure you have the occasional topless dance but who care when everyone be bore anyway . that one of main problem with the show represent no one seem to be enjoy themselves they be there just go through the motion try mightily hard to appear to have a good time . and you really cant blame them since the event be all wildly unimaginative and lame . finally and the physical aspect be not there . there no cuddling and no caressing and no kissing ( . ) and no endearment of any sort . it just ok that be a boring date and im gon na go back to my ugly and tacky wan na be sydney operahouse dwell ( quick peck on the lip ) cya . this show be so ing prudish it ridiculous . i can understand them not want to play up the perceived indiscretionary nature of homosexual men and but come the on . people who watch reality tv show be gon na want more than standoffish hug and curt kiss . this show refuse to compromise . sorry if this be long winded but i felt these be issue that need to be address . i do commend bravo for first put up a show of this nature and but the staggeringly incompetent manner in which this show be handle be mind boggle . to summarize my three point represent boring plus boring plus boring equal go do something else . you will have more fun wait at a doctor office for an appointment and at least they have interest magazine there .