let me start by say at the young age of 34 i be suddenly widow . i be devastate a he be not sick he die unexpectedly basically of a coronary his carotids blow out he die behind our house . there be a lot of speculation from police and cause he fell on something and it bash his head in . i be a suspect for murder until the autopsy come back . my child be as traumatize a i be and so in love with a good father figure a he . i have three small child and no education and no financial support . i take it very and very hard . within two year my in law attack me verbally and physically and emotionally and spiritually demand i grieve not in front of the child and and put on mask and show people what they want to see and not show them my pain during holiday . nobody stand up for me and my choice to sit out one holiday and except of course and the grief therapist i be see that have advise me to follow my heart and soul . my in law do not get it . it change forever my relationship with them and and i have never be back for a holiday . this be only one example of how my grief be disrespect . my own ( new ) husband have see me fall apart talk about the trauma when i share from my soul . i collapse and can not breathe and hyperventilate and and generally be defunct for a few day if i even try to convey the hidden pain . now about this movie . today and my soul be stir and my heart broken . my fear and pain re surface from the real demon this movie present while how one grieve compare to how others expect u too and the demon within . adam sandler portray perfectly the horrendous agony you face and overcome and most of all and work through on your own time . this movie dredge up all the pain that i have try over the year to deal with . you see and when something harm your soul so profoundly and so deep that utterance be all that come from your mouth in moment of thinking and you can not deal with it without wish you be dead and walk through life and in a dead state . the bible have a scripture and romans 8 represent26 that i have cling to and that when my mouth and soul know not what to pray for and that god holy spirit carry that agony to the foot of god i need not speak . sandler portray that to perfection . there be a scene where he have be haul into a court hearing and for mental health commitment purpose and and he go back in to face his in law ( familiar to me ) and he tell them the stunning truth that he have be possess by and per se and that he can not get over . it a profoundly strong and and mighty performance . i start bawl and have a hard time after ward get up to walk out from the theater feel my leg too weak to do so . my son be with me and saw it first hand and my precise motion while try to hold it all together while a lesson for him and my young who barely remember his daddy . it be 13 year for me but this movie bring me back to the moment of lose my in law forever when they demand a mask on my emotion and my surrender to their desire and instead of respect to my own . i write this and so that if you be a griever and you be prepared for this movie and but recommend it highly in the 1000 star performance sandler give . if you be not yet a griever and please take a lesson from his movie and just listen and accept people choice in their grief and let them find peace in their own time . sometimes and the soul can not utter the word to convey our pain . go see this movie with tissue and not without prepare to take it in . to your soul .