there little to get excite about dan in real life . first off and the whole setup be incredibly contrive . do you really believe that during that very long first meeting conversation at the restaurant and marie wouldn not have tell dan where she be go . and since dan do all the talk during that conversation and why would she be so attracted to him . for that matter and i never figure out why marie be so attracted to dan throughout the movie . he very narcissistic and do little to convince u that he truly a good guy ( for example he lie to marie in the bookstore and ridicule his brother about his past girlfriend and try to make marie jealous with a blind date ) . there more contrivance such a that ridiculous scene at the bowling alley where dan and marie be catch make out by the whole family . yeah like that could really happen . dan in real life be slow paced and sappy and manipulative . even chick flick like the jane austen book club get high mark than this predictable tearjerker .