i understand what this movie be try to portray . how the old be often ignore and treat like a bother and which mean they end up feeling unappreciated and like their life be empty . i do not have a problem with this message and but i just feel that it could have be put across in a way that be not so painful to watch . i enjoy a good art movie but when a movie become too self consciously arty ( a in this case ) the result be often frustrating . include shot of a person pack a suitcase slowly that take 5 minute try to make a point but just end up annoy the audience . the female character be very weak and you end up want to just tell them to pull it together . this be a movie you feel you should enjoy or rate highly and certainly have it merit but i be just too frustrated watch it to ever recommend it to someone else . it might have a deep message than other roger michell movie ( for example represent notting hill ) but at least that be a movie you could enjoy watch .