Paul , you were also a parent of young kids before . So , can you tell me what you did when your kids didn ’ t behave very well ?   I know Mark is your only child . You may do it differently from what I did . Sometimes I would tap their hands when they made troubles .   I do it , too . You know , sometimes when we eat , my child would pull a dish towards him and grab it with his hands and eat . And if it were something he doesn ’ t like , he would spit it out and throw it into other dishes . He does it very often . I really get mad . I can ’ t help spank him sometimes .   And what does your husband do ?   My husband is an American . He criticizes me when I do that . He says that I can ’ t change a child ’ s behavior by using force . He is learning what I am doing now . 