 In doing so, he shatters the indecision and relational calculations that have been tormenting him for weeks, though even when he and Oliver finally kiss, he isn't sure what to make of their connection.Similarly, he feels confused after they have sex, ultimately experiencing something like shame even though he's glad to have acted on his feelings.In the beginning of their acquaintanceship, Oliver and Elio do not quite know what to think of one another, or how to deal with their mutual attraction.