[ WP ] Write the letter that you always wanted to , but never did .

Dear Mom and Dad, 
 
 I probably should have told you this sooner for the sake of my mental health, but now I am safe from you and your disappointment, rage, sadness, and whatever you may do once you've read this letter. 
 
 I'm not who you think I am. Since middle school I slowly began to realize that I do n't believe in your God, I do n't believe Jesus died for anyone's `` sins'' and I do n't believe that hating gays does anyone any good. The only thing I liked about our church was the community there. Even a more liberal church would not befit me, because of my aforementioned lack of belief. I do n't care if the Holy Spirit is going to give me the grace to believe and trust in God because that's not going to happen, mother, no matter how often you drag me to church after a late night, taking up half a day that would be better used for sleep or studying. 
 
 I also am a liberal even in politics. I'm pro-choice and I'm pro- everything that you hate and can not believe people could ever like. I'm gay, bisexual to be exact, I've had sexual relationships better than any of yours ever were or could be because I am not afraid to talk about it or anything else with my friends who you think are such a bad influence on me. All they've done is bounced my own thoughts back at me and exposed me to their parents and their lives- by doing that they helped me realize just how much I can not stand to live with you because their parents are so much more open and accepting that it makes me want to cry because of how much I felt boxed in and trapped and stuck living a life that is n't mine. 
 
 Yes, you've both done a lot for me. But Mom, Dad was there for me a lot more than you were. He was available even when I did n't want him and I appreciate that a lot more than your constant worrying about grades or how all I need to do is practice more or study more when that's really only part of what I need to do. So thank you dad. 
 
 I ca n't be in contact with either of you unless you can accept me as I am and not just part of me. Hate the sinner, love the sin is such utter bullshit that I can not see how it could ever make sense. If you hate that I am bisexual you are hating a part of me that I can not change and I will not pretend to. I may end up with a female partner or a male partner but either way I will still be bisexual and if you will only acknowledge me in my entirety when I'm with a man, then I can not accept your support because it wo n't be unconditional like a parent's love and support is supposed to. 
 
 I ca n't be in contact with you if you refuse to recognize that I do n't believe in God. I do n't think there is some higher power up there or some virgin gave birth to a baby boy just because she ca n't have been lying about it because some old book written thousands of years ago by men, old and fallible men, said she was. The Bible is full of inconsistencies and flaws and I can not find it in me to believe in something so vague and unproven. 
 
 If your reaction to this letter is anything but love and acceptance, I no longer want to be your daughter and I will not be manipulated into changing my mind or hating myself because of this like you have in the past. 
 
 Best regards, 
 
 Me ( when I am financially independent )
