I have a book that has been an eye opener for me. It may be helpful to those Americans who begin to sense that they are not "insync" with the Europeans with whom they live and work. The sense that there is an indescribable defensiveness, a manipulative art of "non"communication that baffles the American sensitivities. That feeling of being "held at bay", regardless if with Germans or Brits, French or Italians. A feeling there is a collective European attitude passed on through generations born out of institutionalized horror, surviving war and poverty, concealment and distrust.It is NOT tourists, those who only experience sights and foods. It is for those American expats - or those living and working in Europe more than 6 months - who have gotten beyond romanticizing about those quaint tourist traps in which they settled.