I tried to force myself to read the entire book before writing this review, and couldn't. Writes with the assumption most relationships are based on abuse. Types of advice you'll get: Don't mother him, don't sacrifice your life for him, ask yourself: "If you were a man, would you be attracted to you?". Doesn't work if both you and your men are actually adults. Wouldn't have worked back in the days when I WAS abused, because it portrayed that condition as "normal". If that DOES describe your relationships, much better advice to you is: "stop hanging out with losers!"