if only those famous words we all say when we find we are once again in a bad relationship that has us manuipulated by a con artist or charmer!!! I find my if only moment came at the first chapter when I had wished someone had given me a copy of this book BEFORE I stepped into a bad, controlling, abusive marriage....! Read it, and study it, find your pattern in this book if you are in one of those relationships....It will save you heartache!