We'll be married 30 years this September. Old habits become ruts that you accept, however they can be damaging to your marriage relationship & can become abusive in nature, unintentionally. This book helps couples to examine "habits" behaviors that are not healthy & gives tools how to stop that behavior in a respectful way for each partner. I highly reccomend this book. It has given our marriage more respect for each other & a freshness to who we are as human beings.