The book is outdated as far as current policies on international adoption. There are better books out there about this.This couple has such a bad marriage that they should not have adopted. She took a huge risk of adopting with the hope that her husband would come around once the baby was born. If he hadn't, the baby would have experienced the loss of her birth parents and the loss of the adoptive father. The author was arrogant and selfish.The fighting between the author and she husband should have been left in her journal.