After reading all of the rave reviews I think my expectations were too high. I was just not that impressed with this book and found the advise to be a bit vague; I would recommend reading any book by Patricia McConnell before this one.On a side note the author (and editor in not catching this) really irked me with her inability to spell the word losing correctly, it was mispelled at least 2x's; the correct spelling of losing is NOT "loosing" and loose and lose do NOT mean the same thing.