This book seems more like a cathartic memoir of a woman's painful adoption experience rather than an unbiased helpful guide. As another reviewer wrote - who are her sources? Are they unbiased or did she seek out those with equally painful experiences? It doesn't seem to be a balanced or objective study. I couldn't even get through a third of this book - the melodrama put me off. I've read many other superior books dealing with adoption, loss, grief and attachment disorders.