as adults we decided to have a child...it is not an easy taskand it is a never-ending 24 hour a day job. be a grown-up and exceptresponsibility for this human being you have brought into this world. this book is cruel and a "quick fix". my strong willed 9 month old cried 3 hours the first night and missed his naps for two days because he cried "the hour time limit." the second night he cried 2 hours and barely slept longer than 20 minute intervals. he woke with swollen red eyes with dark circles. this approach does not serve in the best interest of every child (or parent). i threw it away, brought my son into bed with us and proceeded to take responsibility for the life i created by providing love whenever my child needed it, no matter if it was at 2 in the afternoon or 2 in the morning. as for our sex life...if there's a will there's always a way.