This book is well-written, clever and entertaining with some great suggestions. I particularly value his emphasis on communication between a couple regarding sex. I can't ultimately recommend this book to others or give it as a shower gift because I think his advice about "self stimulation" is dangerous. Leman advices men to "self stimulate" in order to learn ejaculatory control. He advices women to "self stimulate" in order to understand her own body and what pleasures her. The danger here, and it's a very real one, is that it can lead to a habit of masturbation, which is destructive and divisive in a marriage and one's own spiritual life. Don't even go there. These things can be learned without "self stimulation"!