As I tell my friends, you won't be borrowing mine...I plan on keeping it by my bedside until my youngest is "launched"! Great hands-on advice FOR TODAY -- sharing the Rainey's own guidelines but encouraging you & your spouse to get your act together NOW & design your own. Buy this book when your first child turns ten, if possible. If not, JUST BUY IT NOW. I cannot give this book enough stars! It's practical advice with specific action plans. It's full of encouragement. What could be better as we parent the next generation?