As a psychotherapist, I am always interested in self-help books that might be valuable to myself and my clients. This book, along with Scott Wexzler's book, "Living with the Passive-Agressive Man," are the two books I continually recommend to those people who feel angry and "crazy" in relationships and yet don't quite understand what is going on. This book is especially valuable because not only does the author define passive-aggressive behavior, he gives concrete ideas of how to constructively recognize and address it. Also, he provides a realistic assessment of the effects p/a has on a relationship and the difficulty one will have in recognizing and disengaging from this anger. Well written and easy to follow, this book is a valuable asset to anyone caught up in the tentacles of passive aggressive, or hidden, anger.