Written by someone who has lived a long time in Asia but has learned nothing and is still hung up on Western feminist stereotypes. Naive and presumptous, written by a grim middle-class Westerner unable to transcend her painfully obvious sophomoric limitations. Many words, no wisdom. The Chinese say "ting bu dong" meaning "hear but not understand" which is a good description of the author's perspective. Avoid and buy Ming Tan's How to Attract Asian Women instead -- a book written buy a sensitive and understanding Asian woman, filled with quotes from real Asian women, much better than this. Another great alternative is "Foreign Babes in Beijing" which was, like this book, written by an American woman who spent several years in Asia and starred in a Chinese soap opera. It is witty, intelligent, perceptive and gracefully written unlike this turkey. Avoid.