Though Eldredge puts a lot of thought and energy into the book it appears to lose ground in parts to an disquieting echo of the "me" generation. Giving your life to Christ allows you to understand it's not all about "me." If you feel you have lost the zip in your life and your marriage there's a higher purpose other than gaining (or regaining) the "dangerous" aspect of your masculinity. I would recommend reading Warren's "The Purpose Driven Life" with WAH. Figure out why you are here first, the rest will fall into place.