Anyone who dumps you clearly has no repect for you or their self. You must always communicate to see what the other person is thinking and feeling. When they don't communicate, they could possibly dump you. Pick up on the cues. The books says about the dumping language, but it is all pretty obvious. The person is being a coward!! If the person really loves you and wants to a least be your friend then the person will talk to you about what is right and wrong. You may have started a relationship with a serial dater/dumper, who is in denial about their problems, emotional issues and fears, and you didn't find out before hand.Don't control the person because that is exactly what the dumper is doing - controlling what happens in the relationship. Confront the person with their own thoughts and feelings by communicating. Love yourself, because that person clearly doesn't love their self. But, remember, still have some compassion for that person.Take care.