Disingenous, facile and less than helpful. I find that my husband and I are both human beings and tend to have similar needs and wants, and if not, well, we have imaginations too. Oh, and mouths and human speech.Feldman suggests that men and women are vastly different from each other and have a different need for respect or love (age old "men want respect, women want love"). The revelation that "men will choose to be respected without being loved over being loved without being respected" is blighted by the false dichotomy, ludicrous and offensive to people everywhere. I may not be a Harvard graduate but most people will agree with me when I say that if there's no respect, it's not love.