This book was practically torture to read through. I could not get over the fact that he never defined respect, or even what he meant by love. Also, enough with the quotes already! His book is half letters from (mostly women) who have read his book or attended his conference and "have never heard this message before now." Really? You've never learned that it's important to love and respect your spouse??? Huh?? Who are these people is what I want to know. And, doesn't everyone, regardless of gender, need both love and respect? How do you love someone without showing them respect? Why does he never state that a woman also needs respect? To top it off, it is really poorly written. Ugh..Please, do not waste your time with this book.