I found this book to be insulting and unrealistic. Dr. Leman warns readers not to marry anyone who falls into one of the categories of his list of what he calls "red flags". Some of the "red flags" were those who have been sexually abused, those who are selfish and controlling, etc. I agree that some of the "red flags" that Dr. Leman notes should be considered in choosing a mate, however, it's unrealistic that any one person will not have any struggles. If you do choose to read this book, I suggest that you read it subjectively, as this is only one man's view- and it is only an opinion!