Save your money and your time, steer well clear of this book. Annoying, new age, sensitive new age guy, left wing, metro-sexual, wanna-be intellectual gibberish. If you want to emasculate yourself and appear sophisticated while doing it, then this may be your thing. A well know person from the PUA community recommended this book in one of their products, maybe this explains the undeserved high score for this book. He's a very good sales person with the gift of the gab and people hate to admit to themselves that the recommendation is bad, considering how much they paid for his products and how much of an oracle he's meant to be.If you are looking for a great personal development book for men, then get your hands on a copy of Dr Robert A Glover's book, "No More Mr Nice Guy". Also on a lighter and un-PC note is the very funny, yet a lot of truth to it book, "Nice Guys Don't Get Laid" by Marcus P Meleton Jr.