M. Gary Neuman puts fear in the hearts of married people. His notion that emotional infidelity is more dangerous than a sexual affair because everyone wants emotional attachments, is more a scare tactic rather than good advice.If you look at his rules, then anyone who has an emotional attachment outside of marriage is guilty of infidelity. Best-friends, close siblings, parents, children from a previous marriage, could all fall into these rules. You could have an emotional affair with your mother or your best friend.Instead of focusing on real issues that cause "jealousy" Neuman blatantly says that we should avoid and be on guard for those people who might even want a friendship.This whole concept is wrong.There are better books and better sources to read