Despite the fact that Melina makes the comment, "in many respects being an adoptive parent is no different from being a biological parent," it seemed to me from the tone of the book that she doesn't believe that statement at all. While she criticizes biological parents for "minimizing" the differences between raising bio children and adopted ones, she does a 180 and interprets almost every single child-raising issue (many of which seem quite universal) as uniquely adoptive child-related (which is just as bad).While there's a lot of useful information in this book, especially the ideas about creating meaningful scrapbooks/lifebooks for children, I found the "it's an adoption thing" tone very grating after a while.If parents of adopted children "adopt" her tone, they're very likely to alienate everyone around them.