This book was a waste of time, I checked it out at the library because of all the raving reviews and am looking for psychology and/or persuasion books as well as books on pick up artistry. I admit I didn't read the whole thing. I flipped through it and got through almost half; from what I read, and from what I could tell the book was a complete waste of time just about. It just goes into great, unnecessary detail about the science of nice guys... How lame, almost all of it is common sense, anyone who got anything out of this book and gave it a rating of 4 or above doesn't know much. Even if you did, go to a different book, look into the art of pick up artistry if you're looking to pick up girls or I highly recommend Dale Carnegie's Book Lifetime for success, the #1 best-selling book in psychology on amazon.com... This book has so much fluff in it, I believe that the author wrote it just to make a quick buck.