We've read through about 3/4 of this book and the one theme that seems to run through the whole book is that it is constantly asking you to relive past arguments. I realize there may be people with problems with unresolved conflicts, but we both felt that the book was TRYING to get us to fight! It has gotten to the point where we gloss over many of the daily "discussions". We will probably finish the book but I will not be reading it a second time.