This was a very disappointing book. There seemed to be no understanding whatsoever of the damage caused to relationships generally by people withholding secrets from one another (and that damage principally affects the person withholding the secret - in this case the lesbian woman - and not the person(s) being withheld from). There was also a general bias to portraying most of the husbands as pretty awful people; in reality many of them will have been devoted to their wives and devastated by the crushing rejection involved in this type of case.