I am deciding if i am ready to have children or even if i want to have children.I was hooked after the first few pages. I doubt that all these issues relate to every parent but i don't doubt that every parent will have experienced certain parts of this book for themselves.Thank goodness i was able to read this book while i am still in the decision making phase. It does come across as quite negative but there are any number of books skewed towards the positive. I believe you have to take it all on board and use what you can. I read it in tandem with Baby Daze by Erina Reddin which i loved. Read the two together and i think you might have a reasonably realistic veiw of what can be expected, or at least several points of view to mull over