This book really opened my eyes to the various types of characters I've gotten involved with over the course of my adult life. But the most important thing it gave me was to open my eyes to my own self - and to see what was in my that thought that these men and their behaviours were acceptable. Identifying pathologies is one thing, identifying your own unhealthy self-perceptions is the treasure and this book enables you to do that (if you're willing to take a look within).I love how Sandra gives the power back to the reader by always getting them to contemplate with integrity - for them to admit that they WILLINGLY got into these relationships in the first place, so it's not about blaming men per se. That is very helpful in gaining wisdom and savvyness in dealing with people and changing your own behaviour so that you can attract healthier, more balanced and nurturing relationships into your life.