I read this book about 7 years ago. Sadly I had to learn late in life that you do not find someone by using "tactics." Although not quite a stalkers manual, it comes close. I tried to "win over" someone by using some of these "tactics" for two years. I later learned that she had also been dating someone else but wanted the perks she was getting from my creative attention. It is difficult to manipulate someone into liking you. The old adage is true, women choose their men. My life has become so much easier now that I have accepted this fact. My dating life and self esteem have improved as well.