This book is not a fair assessment of the complexities which exist in marriages where one partner is gay and the other straight. Bonnie Kaye treats this issue very simplistically by stating the only way to happiness, once it is found out that a husband is gay or bisexual, is to divorce.Her experience cannot be applied to everyone. I'm sure there are many women who want to wallow in self-pity along with Ms. Kaye. However, if women want to have a deeper understanding of what is happening to them after their husbands come out to them, this is not the book for them.Divorce is not the only solution, although it may be right for some people. There are many examples, which Ms. Kaye fails to mention, of successful, happy couples who are in mixed-orientation marriages.