i found the book very enlightening. at first it was difficult to succumb to the idea that the woman has to be the one to do the "changing", however as Mrs. Doyle pointed out, men do not feel the need to change unless something drastic happens in the relationship. it is usually the woman who feels this need. And like Mrs. Doyle, i tried every other way to get my husband to be the kind of husband i wanted and that has not worked. what could it hurt to try?