It's nice to read about the experiences of others and find out that what we all go through is so similar (I guess!). However, I'm concerned that while the book gave me a nice fuzzy feeling, it didn't practically help me to get down to my own real issues. Meeting your partner's needs surely means that you're also catering to any existing dysfunction and failing to really address your own issues. Up to a point, this book is valid in terms of getting the balance right - enough quality time, appreciation, etc - but it's dealing with fairly superficial stuff. I still find that Olga Sheean's book is the only one that really cuts to the chase, and helps me deal with my own issues rather than simply observe and sympathize with those of others who have their own path.Fit for Love: Find Your Self and Your Perfect Mate