This seemingly great book at the begining seemed to really put a southword trend on my relationship really fast. at lease this is how I felt in my mind. of course I stopped reading the book as soon as this started happening and realized no matter how helpful a book is 2 authors are not going to tell me that my relationship sucks when they havnt even met my partner nor I. they speak over and over again about how if the other person is not recipricating that your relationship is bad or that he doesnt love you. What about all those couples out there that have a purely Top Bottom relationship. Where one is the bottom always gives head jacks off in the bathroom? Just kidding. But really I know there are couples out there like myself that dont give and receive. Anyways its a good book to read if you and your partner swap duties, but too all the bottoms out there who are ONLY bottoms. Dont read this book. thats why i gave it 2 stars.