I liked the book. It gave my wife and I a starting point for trying to understand our first teenager's behavior. It's main point is that being a teenager today is different than when we were 14, and understanding where they are coming from can help us deal with behaviors that were totally unacceptable from us at 14. If you want a "Do this...." sort of book you will be disappointed. It offers a point of view that we didn't necessarily agree with 100%, but it helped us to find what we do agree on.