People have listed all sorts of books that are much better than this one. I completely wasted my money on this. The author(s)' points are not biblical. Sure they use bible passages but they are completely taken out of context. I try to live my life on what Jesus would do. I"m not perfect but I try. You can guide children through life without hitting them. There is a way to gently parent without using humiliation and fear that this book advocates. I urge you to seek out dr. sears. He has some very good techniques on raising children.